tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post5605559929667844801..comments2023-04-06T04:06:41.823-06:00Comments on Hello Goodbye: The Name Gamecarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11393089450621191821noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-62512075263292491172010-12-29T13:30:23.190-07:002010-12-29T13:30:23.190-07:00The fact that she didn't even give you a heads...The fact that she didn't even give you a heads up or call or anything suggest that she is not as good as a friend as you might have thought. I had a friend use my son's middle name. The day her son was born and announced the name, I felt like I had gotten kicked in the stomach. I don't "own" the name but seriously, she should have talked to me. so sorry. I understand your pain. I can't blog about it because she reads my blog. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-35174508943112850472010-12-19T20:27:04.142-07:002010-12-19T20:27:04.142-07:00Oh boy do I ever understand.
The same thing happe...Oh boy do I ever understand. <br />The same thing happened to us but it was my own sister in law who did it.<br />You can read about it here http://nosuzyhomemaker.blogspot.com/2010/05/good-newsbad-news-day.html and again here http://nosuzyhomemaker.blogspot.com/2010/06/one-where-i-ramble-and-curse-lot.html<br /><br />I am so sorry this happened to you. It is just painful and horrible.Suzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10979257233557088253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-3098641755172668572010-12-19T05:18:09.521-07:002010-12-19T05:18:09.521-07:00Not being told by her is SO not ok! I'm so sor...Not being told by her is SO not ok! I'm so sorry for you to have to deal with this. It is very insensitive of her!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15550346625004276669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-83387399368884646482010-12-17T19:19:28.524-07:002010-12-17T19:19:28.524-07:00I've been following your blog for a little whi...I've been following your blog for a little while. I'm so sorry for your loss. <br /><br />It's terrible too that she didn't tell you beforehand about the name. I had an online friend who called her daughter something very similar to mine (one syllable different, but based on the same root) and she was kind enough to ask me beforehand if it was okay. I kept thinking, wow, that's nice...but does my opinion matter...what would she have done if I said no...but I said it was fine, and thanked her for checking with me and asking me beforehand instead of just springing it on me...to me, her daughter's name was still slightly different enough that it wasn't exactly the same in my mind. But I wish others out there would be as considerate and either not use the same names or ask the bereaved parents for their input first.JMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07633693109130292239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-6631471273604958762010-12-17T16:09:18.254-07:002010-12-17T16:09:18.254-07:00even if she'd called you and presented you wit...even if she'd called you and presented you with a fait accompli that would still have been out of order. to hide it just means she knows it was insensitive at best and cruel at worst. i'm sorry you've got yet another thing to deal with :(Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12523875341438470968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-25987900734349890372010-12-17T13:54:19.786-07:002010-12-17T13:54:19.786-07:00Oh no. I definitely agree with you, Reid's nam...Oh no. I definitely agree with you, Reid's name should be 'off the market', it's HIS name. She wouldn't have called her son Reed if your Reid was alive would she? Especially given how she felt about the whole Kade / Kayden thing?<br />It would have been slightly easier to swallow if she had at least contacted you and asked you how you felt about it. Ick. Sorry that you had to find out about it in such an awful, impersonal way too.Catherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-89706453702181325532010-12-17T09:07:06.504-07:002010-12-17T09:07:06.504-07:00I think you have every right to be upset! Out of r...I think you have every right to be upset! Out of respect for you and Reid, she should have at lest asked you what your thoughts and feelings were on the matter. I agree that his name is just that, HIS NAME! No one has the right to take it just because he is no longer here. She should have known better, especially since she got so upset about her sons name being partially used for another little boy. I say shame on her. That's just my opinion though.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09209255370571861480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-80370326082770736202010-12-17T07:00:47.482-07:002010-12-17T07:00:47.482-07:00If the person told me ahead of time, it wouldn'...If the person told me ahead of time, it wouldn't be so bad. But it only wouldn't be bad if I knew that they were naming their baby after mine. Just to use the name would feel like a stab in the heart. I think I would have trouble seeing the person who named their baby the same name I did. It would be too hard to hear another little boy being called Jacob. It is even hard to hear when I am with my nephew in the park and I hear someone calling a boy I don't even know Jacob or Jake.Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12860497122946287983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-38965006385231628352010-12-17T03:29:56.851-07:002010-12-17T03:29:56.851-07:00Well i was completely freaked when a blogger who k...Well i was completely freaked when a blogger who knew me not at all and who had 4 girls named her 5th child, a boy, Freddie in the summer.<br /><br />So yes, I'd be gutted. My sister had a boy shortly after Freddie and I was torn between hoping she'd use his name as a middle name and desperately hoping she wouldn't.<br /><br />I kind of hope my girls might.Merryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338478486624362745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-2368543738658775252010-12-17T00:24:43.822-07:002010-12-17T00:24:43.822-07:00probably my heart would pause every single time th...probably my heart would pause every single time there was mention of the old friend and her child.<br /><br />that's just ick.<br /><br />and i'm sure she's well aware that this name choice is very distasteful on her part...to try to change it up by altering the spelling speaks volumes.<br /><br />~but i hope you always think of your reid first. i'm sure everyone else who knows you and this old friend will.<br /><br /><3Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16081240770654599827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-72550140354267875352010-12-16T22:48:24.629-07:002010-12-16T22:48:24.629-07:00Chai's name is extremely uncommon in the US, s...Chai's name is extremely uncommon in the US, so I doubt it would happen. But I do understand how angry that would make you. I have never even spoken my "girl" name out loud to anyone but the hub for fear it would be stolen before I could use it. Damn names anyways. Thinking of you and Reid (always think of a grade school friend of mine because this was her last name with the "i" even.)Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17215595176820577303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-20012850620368228102010-12-16T22:41:51.153-07:002010-12-16T22:41:51.153-07:00This would massively piss me off. And we chose &q...This would massively piss me off. And we chose "Aidan"...it's the most popular freakin' name in 2010. We chose Aidan's name many many years ago for our 'first boy'. When we found out he was likely going to die, I wanted to change it to something less popular and also that I had attached less 'living child' thoughts to. It just seemed so cruel to think of MY Aidan as dead. My husband however refused. He felt the name belonged to Aidan. Which we stuck with since my husband blurted out that the baby's name was Aidan in the delivery room. <br /><br />Still...I love love love the name Aidan and not only does it kill me that he's dead, it kills me that the baby I dreamed of for years named "Aidan" is dead too.<br /><br />So yeah. I totally feel your pissed off-ness.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17587287197734518952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-38513195103806060362010-12-16T21:44:49.056-07:002010-12-16T21:44:49.056-07:00That would really freak me out and piss me off in ...That would really freak me out and piss me off in a big way. <br /><br />We went to a memorial thingy at Brief Encounters on Monday and there was another baby on the list named Juniper. That really bummed me out too.Sadkittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00017258640210577339noreply@blogger.com