tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post1064805626360785876..comments2023-04-06T04:06:41.823-06:00Comments on Hello Goodbye: Another Bad Daycarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11393089450621191821noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-59084608489582719082010-06-28T14:08:59.538-06:002010-06-28T14:08:59.538-06:00i saw a baby the day after we found out ours had d...i saw a baby the day after we found out ours had died. i was scared to, but i didn't want it to be built up into a big thing in my head. i'm mostly ok with babies now.... although ones i don't expect take me by surprise still.<br /><br />visibly pregnant women, though. them i find much, much harder to cope with. being aware that they can feel their babies moving around? that i can't cope with. i had to tell my best friend i couldn't cope with seeing her until after she's had her baby. i haven't seen her in four months and i miss her so much :( but we have to make do with email.<br /><br />the one rule i've found, though, and it doesn't just apply to pregnant people/people with babies? <br /><br />those who understand are much, much easier to bear than those who don't.<br /><br />thinking of you car xxBethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12523875341438470968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-50804218177759831632010-06-24T19:42:22.691-06:002010-06-24T19:42:22.691-06:00I was pregnant at the same time as DH's cousin...I was pregnant at the same time as DH's cousin, whose having girl twins any day now. I haven't been able to see her since the loss of Nevan. I'm just so angry she's going to get 2 baby girls and I got 0. (Sounds horrible, doesn't it?) <br /><br />I did hold a baby last week and it was nice. But the parents lost their last baby, so it was different I think, and the mom knew how I was feeling. It was hopeful to see people have a baby after their loss. I don't know how I would have dealt if it was a "normal" baby. I don't even know if any of this helps you, but be gentle with yourself, and if you don't want to see your friend, don't.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01127206895783584250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-88776703525990509532010-06-24T10:53:36.033-06:002010-06-24T10:53:36.033-06:00I've spent a good amount of time around severa...I've spent a good amount of time around several of my best friend's babies (both boys- I had a girl.) and I found it to be therapeutic once I got past the initial gut-punch feeling. But everyone is different and if they had been girls I don't know that it would have been as easy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1905396975810102836.post-81753341204618558712010-06-23T22:51:43.831-06:002010-06-23T22:51:43.831-06:00I have yet to spend time with someone who is pregn...I have yet to spend time with someone who is pregnant, but I have spent time with other babies. I have a good friend here in town who had her second baby, a boy, a month before I had Charlotte. I went over to her house two weeks after Charlotte died and I held that boy and I cuddled him and I rocked him and I talked to him. It was hard, very, very hard, but it was important for me to put that milestone behind me. Now I see him once a week or so and it helps me work through my grief. If he were a girl I think it would be a lot harder. <br /><br />You need to do what's best for you right now. And if that means not seeing that friend for a while, that's okay. It's also okay to have a down day and let D watch too much TV. You are doing your best and you are a great mama.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14426410846093760653noreply@blogger.com